Few months ago, on a fine moody day, one question stroked my mind. “What makes a person to be happy very often?” Unlike other questions, this question even started traveling in my mind as I couldn't satisfy myself with an answer initially. I triggered my search for an answer..
A kid back home from school. He need to complete his homework, but he saw his friends playing. His heart says “go and play”, his mom says “play after work”. According to Disappointing Act, any kid need to follow his mom, so he concentrates on his work maintaining the same sad look through out his working time. But the moment he is done with his work, he feels very happy and even forgets his time. Happiness indescribable.
Recently, I had a visit to a temple with my friends where we met a kid who was selling water bottles. The kid sat with us requesting to buy one bottle. We asked him how much do you get for one bottle. He replied '1 rupee'. Anyways, we didn't buy and he left us. After sometime, the kid ran towards us holding a 20 rupee note in his hand with a million dollar smile on his face. In fact, he didn't run towards us but his intention was to show that he finally sold out one which fetches him one rupee profit. An indescribable one rupee Happiness.
I questioned myself, how they are able to absorb happiness from little things? And why are we not? Because as we grow, we ignore the word 'little'. We start feeling the air of tensions. Comparisons begin. We don't get satisfied easily. We care ego. High expectations. And the list goes on. All these attributes play a key role in strengthening a person. But they also become very handy in killing happiness.
A person gets good rank in an examination. But he is not happy because someone else got better rank than him. The value of his good rank is nowhere existing because of his ego. In my sense, Ego should be expressed when a person has chance to show his abilities, but not after the result. If latter is the case, then no doubt ego is a happiness killer.
Recently, after entering into TCS, I saw many people wishing for a project allocation very soon. After project allocation, they need PC immediately. Later, they need work. In the end, they may not like the work. I doubt when actually a person gets satisfied with the things. I asked the same to one of my friend, the reply was “why should I get compromised in every step?” A very valid reply, Right? But I can just say “life is not a promissory note..”. You need to compromise sometimes. If you want satisfaction in every thing, no doubt it is a happiness killer.
An expectation to certain level is always good and I feel that as confidence. But over expectations are the source for disappointments and that in turn kills happiness.
When I joined Btech, I just felt, a good job will keep me happy. Now I got a job, I'm happy. But when someone talks about cracking CAT, when someone talks about GMAT, when someone talks about onsite, I feel there are many other great things than job. It is true. But what about my job happiness?? Very simple, my comparisons locked my happiness. I couldn't find any happiness in my job until I read the quote..“Never compare yourself to others.. you never know what their journey is all about..”. It is so true for a person like me :). What I mean is never plan your growth by comparing with others. “You grow in your own unique way”.
Most of us hold above pointed attributes. Try not to give a chance to these things to control your happiness. Let's see what life has planned for you. Remember, happyness should not be the end, it should accompany you through out your journey. Enjoy the tiny precious happy moments which life shoots at you. There are many little incidents which we generally ignore. Happyness is everywhere, it should be there in your eyes to see it, to feel, and to cherish. Laugh out loud. Plan surprises. Love your relations. Celebrate someone's victory. Use facebook :P. Oh.. I'm getting emotional. I think I should end now..!!
P.S: I couldn't find a common name to ego, satisfaction, expectations, comparisons, etc. So I just named them as attributes ;)
